Boundaries are always necessary, and putting them into place makes it easier to show up in your relationships.

Don’t ignore the signs.

3 signs you need boundaries in your relationships

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Youre constantly flaking out on plans

If youre always canceling plans, thats a sign that youre overbooked.

Or they say yes as a placeholder and they figure, oh Ill worry about it later.

Everythings going really well for me.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and professor focused on the treatment of anxiety disorders and depression

Youre feeling resentful and frustrated

Do you find yourselfresentfulof a lot of people in your life?

And then youre ending up just frustrated.

Learning to say no is the first step in fixing this problem.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

It seems as if the word no is this cruel thing its like a cuss word, says Minaa.

We think that if we tell someone, no, that its the end of the world.

It brings up anxiety, it brings up guilt.

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It brings up so many issues.

Learning to say no is one fundamental part of erecting boundaries.

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a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and professor focused on the treatment of anxiety disorders and depression

Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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