When boundaries become too rigid, they start to work against your relationships.
A therapist shares how to set flexible ones instead.
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Boundaries arelimits and expectations that we set in our relationshipsto communicate our needs and desires.
And they can help support those relationships by creating strong and stable foundations.
Here are 3 scenarios that reflect overly rigid boundaries at play
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When we create rigid boundaries, we are ultimately hurting our relationships and disconnecting ourselves from our communities.
Start by challenging yourcognitive distortions, or the negative frameworks you may choose to live by.
Then, use that feedback as a way to guide the relationship.
Avoid taking things personally
Remember that peoples actions are almost always about them, not you.
Manage your own discomfort
Sometimes, you will be in the wrong.
Be open to correcting your wrongs, and remember that the resulting discomfort will be temporary.
Reflect
Ask yourself whether this boundary that youre setting is allowing room for connection or furthering disconnection.
The good thing about flexible, healthy boundaries is that they are allowed to shift and transform.
And when things arent working for us, we always have the permission to do exactly that.
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