Read on for the most common ones that Earnshaw sees in her practice.

4 relationship bad habits that a couples therapist says you should stop doing

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The tricky thing is achieving a (roughly) balanced division of those tasks before you reach that point.

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And eventually, you start to wonder why youre the only one doing it, she says.

But when you blend your livestogether, the sum total can quickly become overwhelming.

This typically manifests in one of two ways.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

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But theyre also bound to create unnecessary tension and distance over time.

Utilizing your partnership towork through stresstogether, rather than allowing the stress to bulldoze right through it.

and let them vent without attempting to offer solutions or advice.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

and What are you worried about happening or whats the worst-case scenario?

and then just listen calmly, letting them vent without attempting to offer solutions or advice, says Earnshaw.

Most people dont realize how big of a role technology plays in their day, says Earnshaw.

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The problem with the above is the mindlessness of it, says Earnshaw.

I dont believe that technology is always a bad thing for a relationship, she says.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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