Bids in relationships are the fundamental unit of emotional communication.
Here’s how it can strengthen your connection.
All good things to be aware of, for sure.
Enter: Bids, a term coined by theGottman Institute, which takes a research-based approach to relationship counseling.
What is a bid?
They are means for gaining attention, affection, and/or acceptance, she explains.
relationship therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and former global ambassador of Tinder
They are requests from one partner to anotherboth verbal and nonverbal in natureto connect.
These moments of connection create safety in the relationship and support vulnerability.
or, Can you rub my back?
NetworksFamously Single.So understanding how to spot a bid, is an important part of fostering deeper connection.
But bids can do so much more than that.
Heres why: The quality of our relationships depends on the quality of our connection, Dr. Sterling explains.
This shows the other partner that they want to give them attention, just at a different time.
They dont always have to be grand gestures, Dr. Evans says.
Pay attention to subtle cues
Again, your partners bids may often be subtle.
relationship therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and former global ambassador of Tinder
Remember, she says, the goal with bids is to turntowardyour partner as often as possible.
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