How to respond to an apology: Learn effective and graceful tips for acknowledging apologies and maintaining healthy communication.

After all, conflict is part of what makes us human.

If yourelucky, you might get an apology, but you might not.

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After an apology, whether or not you decide to forgive them is up to you.

you’re free to say, I appreciate you taking the time to apologize.

Not everyone deserves your vulnerability, she says, adding that with some people, less is more.

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This phrasing suggested by Kushnir promotes proactive communication and helps establish boundaries.

Without consequences, people dont take boundaries as seriously, she adds.

I trust that we both want to make this relationship better.

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She recommends saying something like I appreciate your apology, but Im still feeling hurt.

I need some time to process this before I can fully move on.

This sentence allows you to communicate how youre feeling (hurt) without dismissing their effort, she explains.

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Its okay to process your emotions and decide if youre ready to accept an apology, Minaa says.

I need space to gather my feelings, as Batista recommends.

What happens if you tell someone you forgive them but youre not actually over it?

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