But its when theres asymmetry in terms of commitment that the longevity of the relationship comes into question.

Without that, people start wondering, How do I behave?

How do they behave?

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What are our expectations?

This can breed just as much resentment in the less committed person as in the more committed.

In any of these cases, asymmetric commitment could be the culprit.

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Of course, thatll be tougher to do if the difference between your timelines is vast.

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