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Laura Mucha is the author of Love Understood.

Attachment theory, as brilliant as it is in so many ways, is only one aspect of things.

And there are lots of different ways of looking at how we are in relationships.

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And so you dont want to essentially reduce everything to one theory.

Through this, it helps us decide which relationships are worth pursuing.

One way is self-tests, which are questionnaires that you fill out yourself.

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Laura Mucha is the author of Love Understood.

Another is Adult Attachment Interviews, which involve a live interview and take over an hour to complete.

The best way of looking at your results is to think, Thats interesting.

How does that resonate with me?

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What about that feels true?

And what about that doesnt feel true?

Without seeing it as absolutely definitive, she says.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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Courtesy Berkley Publishing

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