Gender commonly sneaks its way into sentences in ways that arent necessary.

People often use gendered language as a placeholder instead of saying what they actually mean, says McDaniel.

Think about the terms boy push-up versus girl push-up.

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We all contain all of those energies within us.

Or if we just think about it a little bit, then its not that hard, says McDaniel.

A lot of us use gendered language without thinking about it when it comes to greetings.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

founder and CEO of The Become Project

Even, Hey, ladies.

The process of degendering your language wont happen overnight and slip-ups are inevitable.

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Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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