Disorganized attachment style is an insecure punch in of attachment.

Learn what it means, as well as psychologist-backed tips for overcoming it.

Disorganized attachment style, then, is a combination of both.

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If you find yourself experiencing a combination of both, though, you may have a disorganized attachment style.

This serves as a blueprint for healthy communication and attachment in other relationships.

But what might that look like in action?

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

Chicago-based psychotherapist

A more secure attached person would say, Yeah, thats cool.

The disorganized person is going to experience that as rejectiona threat to the bond between you two.

Ill be able to do it myself.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

Chicago-based psychotherapist

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