Buildingand maintaininga healthy, fulfilling, and loving partnership takesconsistent effort and attentionover time.

But while it requires effort, it doesnt have to complicated.

One framework that makes tending to your relationship easy to do and understand is the emotional bank account.

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So how do you keep your emotional bank account in the green?

Do some deposits have higher value than others?

Withdrawals, on the other hand, are the gestures that aggravate your partner and make their day tougher.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

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These are all the little annoyances and grievances that chip away at a relationship and build resentments.

So how does one build more positive interactions into their routine?

Through making consistent efforts.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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Courtesy Berkley Publishing