What is freudenfreude (the opposite of schadenfreude)?

Simply, it’s taking joy in the success of others, and it can boost your relationships.

Psychologists say freudenfreude can actually level up your relationships rather than compromise them.

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Given that the two are opposite concepts, one tends to show up in the others absence.

That is, people who can empatheticallyfeelyour wins are likely to help you feel even better about them.

But thats not the caseits important to celebrate wins, too.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

Chicago-based psychotherapist

Therearehappy moments, says Dr. Daramus.

And the more you express those feelings, the more adept you may become at experiencing them period.

This mindset shift reflects the personal gains you stand to enjoy as a result of embracing freudenfreude.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

One main component to keep in mind is that no success is too small.

Not sure how to get started if freudenfreude feels unnatural to you?

Have a conversation with a friend, and ask them what theyre currently proud of themselves for doing.

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(Low-pressure, but still impactful in terms of freudenfreude material.)

And who couldnt use more good in their life?

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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