For polyamorous couples, compersion extends to joy felt when ones partner experiences joy with another lover.

Some signs you might be experiencing romantic compersion in subtle ways already?

Of course, this idea has platonic applications, too.

alt

Think about the levels of excitement and connection you have with people throughout your life, she says.

Its almost like you get pleasure and fulfillment from their pleasure and their fulfillment.

Maybe youve been struggling with fertility, or maybe youre actively repulsed by the idea of pregnancy.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

sexologist and author ofPlaying Without a Partner

And, in fact,research supports this.

Tanya Bass, PhD, sexologist

I think theyrerelated, but that doesnt mean the opposite of.

Jealousy typically arises when a person feels threatened, says Dr. Bass.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

Jealousy might point to an unmet need thats preventing you fromfeeling securely attached in your relationship.

Maybe, suggests Dr. Stubbs, you feel intimidated or in danger of losing your partner.

Got it, you’ve been added to our email list.

alt

Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

alt

Courtesy Berkley Publishing