Ever wonder why folks often fight about the same thing repeatedly?
Here, get actionable tips for how to stop having the same argument.
This repetition is an indicator of a lack of repair.
But, thats not to say its impossible to stop the same fight from happening repeatedly in a relationship.
What issue is our fight concealing?
The content of the argument can distract from underlying issues at play.
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What does this conflict conjure from your past (that has nothing to do with the relationship)?
Present conflict can be connected to a past wound.
Its important to differentiate between your own emotional work, your partners work, and the relationships work.
Or you may feel the need to convince the other person that you are right.
This is an opportunity to pause and course correct.
What is the dance we do that creates this repeating conflict?
Statements of support allow our nervous systems to settle and feel safe when they feel threatened or attacked.
What are you willing to surrender for what is truly important?
Being in a reciprocal relationship requires surrendering; growing up and being willing to become anewperson.
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You may have previously been messy.
You may have previously been someone who does it all and then feels resentful.
What would we be doing or saying if we werent having this fight?
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