A professional conversation designers has some ideas on how to have meaningful conversations.

First thing’s first, do a mic check.

Thats whereprofessional conversation designer Daniel Stillmancan help.

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But, uh, what exactly does he do?

Conversation design, for me, is the recognition that human conversations are worth designing, he says.

Conversation design, for me, is the recognition that human conversations are worth designing.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

Its a well-loved psychological fact thatpeopleneedsocial connectionsto thrive.

How to have meaningful conversations on video chat, courtesy of a professional conversationalist.

Ask yourself, Do we both have good audio and video?

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

If things get fuzzy or broken, develop a hand signal to let people know things are broken.

I make a large T to communicate weve got a technical difficulty!'

Share what I call the open-explore-close arc.

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Getting that clear will give you a firm foundation for the rest of the conversation, he says.

Its an unnecessary and draining distraction, so youll have more energy to focus on everyone else.

Youll instantly feel more connected.

Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

Theres no need to scream

Is your voice killing you from over-projecting during your video calls?

If so, work on speaking at a normal volume.

It may also get the conversation going: What herbs are you growing?!

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OMG, the sunsets there are gorgeous?

You know, to get the conversation going and also boost your mood bybringing nature indoors.

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