If any of this sounds familiar, you may have been zapped by an energy vampire.

4 signs that a person is an energy vampire

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This person is always taking and never giving in return.

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Theyre pessimistic

For the energy vampire, something is always going wrong, says Minaa.

That said, occasional pessimism alone does not necessarily make someone an energy vampire.

If both things are true, you likely have an energy vampire on your hands.

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In this way, you could feel used or intruded upon by them, she adds.

What causes someone to become an energy vampire?

Its worth reiterating that people can act as energy vampires intentionally or unintentionally, and with or without malice.

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Below, find a few specific internal reasons why someone might intentionally or unintentionally become an energy vampire.

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Who is especially susceptible to energy vampires?

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I can call you back when I am in the right headspace to have this conversation, suggests Minaa.

The same thing goes if you notice such patterns forming in existing relationships.

One simple technique is to imagine your emotional input as a dimmer switch, he says.

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Why give so much energy to them when they pay so little attention to you?

Even as we may step on each others toes, we can find better ways to dance together.

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