But still, just because we can explain bad behavior doesnt necessarily excuse it.

Get expert tips below for how to not be a sore loser.

Video conference with friends and support each other.

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See if youre feeling insecure about anything that might be fueling the need to win.

Find someplace where other competitive people are gathering, like a multi-player video game or theleaderboards on Duolingo.

One of the biggest differences between healthy competition and toxic competition is who youre playing with.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

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Or spend couch time learning how to solve a Rubiks Cube.

Or spend kitchen timemastering the subtle art of baking bread.

Meditate, and watch your competitive thoughts float by

Another option is meditation, Dr. Daramus says.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

Mindfulness is all about letting thoughts, feelings, and urges pass you by while you remain at peace.

Worried if youre, umm, boring?Heres how to tell.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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