Psychologist Elinor Greenburg, PhD, devised the sofa theory of dating to help clients with dating burnout.
Heres how to apply it.
You may be weathering societal and cultural pressures to pair up.
For example, to always appear interested, but nottoointerested, warm and friendly, but nottoowarm and friendly.
Dr. Greenberg noticed that these influences were making her patientslessinterested in dating and more miserable in the process.
5 applications of the sofa theory of dating to start following now
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psychologist who specializes in personality disorders, Gestalt therapy trainer, and author ofBorderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admisration, and Safety
You wouldnt shop in a store that carries sofas you wouldnt bring home, she addssame with people.
The same goes for finding a partner, Dr. Greenberg says.
For example, if you want someone athletic, joining an intramural sports league is a good bet.
Conversely, dont look for potential partners in places where you wont find them.
Instead, frequent places and groups that are more aligned with your interests.
if the one you wanted was sold out or if you didnt find one you liked.
Youd make another plan and regroup.
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psychologist who specializes in personality disorders, Gestalt therapy trainer, and author ofBorderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admisration, and Safety
