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You would think that looking like him would be a point of pride for me, but it wasnt.

I couldnt get it wet.

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I couldnt get it sweaty.

I couldnt put my hair up during the day or sleep on it too hard.

So I made myself smaller and straighter.

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Then, I went to college, and two things happened.

Then, Sophomore year, I discovered I was gay.

I wasnt all the way there, but I was getting closer.

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And this was certainly the case for me.

After years of trying to look like everyone else, I finally look like me.

And Im exactly who I want to be.

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