Here’s what to know about queer invisibility.

My work, friendships, and community all have components of queerness included.

Immediately, even in just going out to dinner, I noticed our straight-passing privilege.

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So when I am with my S.O., my identity as a queer person is rendered invisible.

(Basically: Look, people like us!)

If I didnt, Id risk feeling alienated from both myself and the queer community at large.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

Not being recognized as queerespecially when you were used to being read as suchcan lead to problems with identity.

This invisibility can even lead to mental-health issues and disconnection from your true self and identity.

This invisibility can even lead to mental-health issues and disconnection from your true self and identity.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

With the turn of every page, I simply felt more queer, and Malina says this makes sense.

It can exist outside that relationshipno matter your sexual orientation orrelationship structure.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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