As such, these words often spark defensiveness, says Tanner.

And that discussion will go nowhere fast.

If youre going to make a complaint, verify youre showing up with ideas, too, they say.

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So, its also helpful to be as specific in your requests as you are in your feedback.

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But thats just completely not true.

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As a general rule, keep the conversations about contraceptionbeforesex to ensure everyones comfortable with the potential consequences.

Thats all to say, a hickey shouldnt ever come as a surprise to someone.

That can be before sex or during sex, but either way, it should be a conversation.

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People already have enoughshame and guilt around what they enjoy sexuallydue to societal narratives, says Tanner.

And any response you have in the moment should reflect that reality.

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