When in doubt, lean into curiosity, she says.
Ask, Whats going on?
Why is this so important to you?
Or, What about this is making you upset?
Id like to better understand.
In this case, she suggests justbeinga calming, supportive presence without necessarily saying anything.
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Instead, pause the conversation and take a beat to cool down, suggests Games.
If they seem receptive, you’re able to then gently make the comparison.
I describe contempt as anything that feels like youre bullying the other person, says Games.
And thats what you definitely do not want to say in a relationship.
And thats a surefire way tobreed resentmentand weaken the foundation of your relationship, she says.
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