To do so, switch yournormal, daily to-do listto a can/cant-control list.
This makes us feel like our lives are not in our control, which triggers feelings of anxiety.
We have full control of how we react to situations, even if we cant control the situations themselves.
Giving ourselves back this control brings a sense of calm and security.
Kristen Scarlett, LMHC
Thinking like this basically leaves us with the false impression that nothing (nothing!)
is in our control, but thats just not true.
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Giving ourselves back this control brings a sense of calm and security.
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dread, andyesthe melodramatic fact that my birthday felt more like a blip thana celebrationthis year.
(Icantcontrol if it rains, thus barring me from enjoying my daily walk.)
Icancall my relative whos at high risk of getting sick right now.
(Icantkeep him from getting sick.)
Icandonate to my favorite wellness-minded small businessesto support their employees during this time.
(Icantcontrol whether or not the business keeps its doors open.)
As Rumi writes, The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
So, thats what Im doinginviting in all the thoughts and worries, those which I canandcannot control.
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