What is relationship compatibility?

Probably different than what you think it is, says a relationship therapist.

Here’s what to know.

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But in my experience, this question isnt the right one to be asking.

Experts in This Article

Benjamin Seaman, LCSW, is a therapist who specializes in couples counseling.

Sheryl Paul, MA is a therapist and anxiety expert and the founder of Conscious Transitions.

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Benjamin Seaman, LCSW, is a therapist who specializes in couples counseling.

Lets start with relationship anxiety.

is usually: AmIenough?

In reality, settling just means that you accepted something you didnt like and didnt vocalize it.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

To that end, dissimilarity is not inherently a sign of incompatibility.

Is this something you might commit to addressing with your partner(s), even if its difficult?

Take care ofyourtender heart, instead of fixating on the lack in theother.

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As for why we tend to misunderstand compatibility so greatly?

It emphasized the value of emotion and redefined love as a central motivator for human life and relationships.

Theres nothing wrong with believing in love and romance.

Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

Compromise is also one of thegreen flags in a relationship.

to, Is this someone that I believe I can work things out with?'

That might just relieve a lot of your relationship stressand help you better navigate your romantic future.

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