But this is wheregetting advice from a sex therapistcan be beneficial.

Too often, couples get caught up in scripted sex or sex that doesnt feel worth having.

Sex therapy gets back to the basics of giving and receiving pleasure.

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Asextherapistcanalsoprovideguidanceandeducationonintimacy,aswellasprovidestrategiesforincreasingdesireandpleasure.Plus, theycanhelptoidentifyanyunderlyingissuesthatmaybecontributingtosexualdissatisfactionorlackofsexualfulfillmentforbothpartners.

The top 3 questions couples ask this sex therapist

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How often are people really having sex?

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

Florida-based sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, chief sexologist atSXWA

They really want [that question] answered in front of the other partner, she says.

If dont desire my partner sexually, does it mean I dont love them?

Changes in life circumstances and stressors, appearance, demeanor, personality can all play a role in this.

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Adjustments may need to be made.

How do I build intimacy in my relationship?

Friendly reminder that these answers from Berkheimer are general jumping off points, and seeingasextherapistcanprovidecoupleswithasafeandnonjudgmentalspacetotalkopenlyandhonestlyaboutanyissuesrelatedtosexandintimacy on a deeper level.

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Florida-based sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, chief sexologist atSXWA

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Courtesy Berkley Publishing