Dating a private person doesn’t have to be negative for your relationship.

Here, experts break it down and share the red flag to look for.

Thats the point of dating, after allgetting to know someone.

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As you learn about the other person, youll uncover aspects of their personality and certain preferences.

For instance, are theyintrovertedorextroverted?

Whats their sun sign?

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Los Angeles-based licensed marriage and family therapist

And do they skew more public or private?

But is it inherentlya red flagif youre dating a private person who wants to keep your relationship mum?

If you keep the relationship a secret over timeunless it is mutually approvedit can breed insecurity.

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And to be sure, privacy and secrecy are not the same thing.

The key here is to understand when someone is keeping things private and when theyre keeping you a secret.

The key here is to understand when someone is keeping things private and when theyre keeping you a secret.

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There is a difference between privacy and secrecy, says Ross.

You should be celebrated, whether youre dating a private person or not.

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Los Angeles-based licensed marriage and family therapist

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