Here’s what relationship pros say.

(Hint: It doesnt signal that youll be treated great.)

If they can treat that person without regard, what will stop them from treating you the same way?

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Kids absorb everything that their parents do and say, she says.

Perhaps in the heat of the moment, the protector energy got ahold of them.

Is a healthy relationship possible if your partner is rude to others?

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University

The short answer is yes, but only if you communicate.

It is important to note that people are still human and make mistakes, says Ruiz.

That could indicate an unwillingness to make any adjustments to their rudeness.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

In this case, It is best to decide to let them go.

Create a healthy distance from them to avoid adding additional stress in your life, says Ruiz.

[Who wants] to be in relationships where their concerns are routinely dismissed?

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So, if you feel that contempt, perhaps your partners rudeness to strangers is a deal-breaker after all.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University

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