Honesty is essential in any relationship and a key component of building trust.

But brutal honesty can be corrosive to couples.

Heres how to identify and address it.

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There needs to be a mutual level of respect between both parties.

When there is such a massive power distance, the entire relationship dynamic is off.

This is when brutal honesty leans into emotional abuse territory.

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neuropsychologist and founder ofComprehend the Mind

Similarly, if your partner constantly puts you down, they are now set on a metaphorical pedestal.

Or, it could be a defense mechanism employed to appear more assertive.

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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