Initiating sex gets confusing or tiresome, which just leads you to have even less of it.

Thats where understanding your sex initiation style comes into play.

Naturally, these answers might not be the samebut thats totally okay, she says.

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6 sex initiation styles, according to a sex therapist

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Marin says drawing out the anticipation of sex is part of the reward here.

Initiation for these folks is a slow burn, she says.

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Its an intensity of emotion that theyre looking for, says Marin.

This might include explicitly telling them how badly you want andneedthem to get their engine revving.

Words arent the best method to initiate with someone who identifies with this style.

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This is someone who will respond well to passionate touching, such as surprise kisses and back rubs.

For this person, its not so much about feeling desired by a partner, says Marin.

Its more about feeling like their partner is willing to put the time into awakening their body.

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