In fact, those swirling voices inside your head can roadblock theneural pathways that lead to the big-O.
Just as we feel pain via brain pathways, we feel pleasure this way, too.
And, as always, ongoing consent is the first priority of any partnered sex act.
3 common reasons nerves can compromise sex play
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A result of fear-based sex-ed
Many sex-education programs in this country are centered around whatnotto do, says Wright.
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licensed marriage and family therapist
If we ignore them or push them away, theyll get louder until we address them.
But once we acknowledge them, its much easier to dismiss them.
Rachel Wright, LMFT
Our feelings just want to be acknowledged, says Wright.
If we ignore them or push them away, theyll get louder until we address them.
But once we acknowledge them, its much easier to dismiss them.
When nervous thoughts start swirling mid-sex, pause what youre doing to address and dismiss them.
It may actually be helpful to step out of the room for a few seconds, says Wright.
Once youre there, consider what it is that you are nervous about.
Breathe, breathe, and breathe some more.
licensed marriage and family therapist
Communicate with your partner.
Its very possible that your partner is experiencing some nervous thoughts, as well.
You could say something like, Hey, do you ever get these types of thoughts during sex?
And if they say yes, you could ask them what they do, she adds.
Practice on your ownand visualize your partner while doing so.
Sounds like a win-win.
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