What is a love map, and why build one?
All this information paints a more complete picture of the person for their significant other.
The first three levels of the house, explains Silverstein, are all about establishing a foundation of friendship.
Creating a love maps is the first piece of this friendship-building stage.
Gatheringand retainingall this information about your S.O.
(or a prospective S.O.)
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Knowing someone also helps you be a better partner to them, and vice versa.
This same principle applies to getting to know someone you are considering making your partner.
This exchange is key to decide if you want to go on a second date.
The process of building your love map should feel fun and rewarding, not taxing and tough.
Questions to ask to get deeper
So how do you put this into practice?
The same concept applies to building your love map, says Silverstein.
(This doesnt have to happen in one sitting, by the way.)
What does this look like in practice?
Not sure where to start?
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Questions about the future:Examples:What are you dreaming about or aspiring to?
What hopes/dreams do you have for our family, or yourself, or our relationship?
Where in the world have you visited that youd want to visit together?
Questions about their inner feelings:Examples:Whats been stressing you out lately?
What are you proud of?
When was the last time you felt truly happy?
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