This form of talk therapy is meant to help people learnhow to manage and regulate intense emotions.

And for people-pleasers, that can be, well, a game-changer for setting boundaries.

What is the DIME game?

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The game begins with two simple questions: Do I ask?

and Do I say no?

Why is the DIME game effective?

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associate therapist at Manhattan Wellness

Lets be clear: The DIME game isnotat all the same as receiving full DBT treatment.

But playing the DIME game can help foster some of the skills that are harnessed in DBT sessions.

She also suggests that the DIME game can provide a roadmap for maintaining self-respect while navigating conflict.

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Recall the earlier example about the friend asking for help with their move.

When should Inotuse the DIME game?

Its clear that the DIME game is a useful, widely applicable tool for navigating conflict.

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What are some other therapy skills that can help with people-pleasing?

With time and practice, youll be saying no (and meaning it!)

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associate therapist at Manhattan Wellness

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