Some people are self-confident and have no problem expressing their feelings with their significant others.

In contrast, others are codependent or avoidant and have difficulty being fully vulnerable.

These are prime examples ofattachment stylesin action.

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What is insecure attachment?

Conversely, asecureattachment style then is defined as having healthy, trusting relationships.

These individuals have high self-esteem and are comfortable expressing their feelings with their partners, Dr. Hafeez says.

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Each presents itself differently in adult relationships.

These children become clingy, demanding, and distressed in hopes that they will capture their parents attention.

This can stem from having parents who did not properly attend to their needs during childhood.

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Like avoidant insecure attachment style, this attachment style is also fearful of relationships.

She adds that most individuals with this attachment style experienced some form of trauma during childhood.

Without this vital step, youll continue struggling within relationships.

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