(As a note, fexting can happen in platonic and romantic relationships alike.)

And when arguing via fexting, thats absolutely the case.

He especially sees this with couples in long-distance relationships.

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That can affect your logical thinking as well.

Next, reach out to your partner (or friend).

During that conversation, remember that otherfair-fighting skillscome into play.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

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Some examples include usingI statements(aka, I feel ___ when ___ because ___.

What I need is ___.

), as well as not bringing up past fights or being cruel in general.

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Pay attention to your words and how you put them in a sentence, she says.

That can set a friendly, defensive, or aggressive tone to your message.

The more aggressive, the more you agitate the fight.

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On that note of arguments escalating, Manswell recommendssetting boundaries.

These steps limit mistreatment and create mutual accountability, he adds.

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