Dating shows and app data point to goofiness as a sought-after quality.

Here, experts break down why being goofy is so attractive these days.

have long reigned supreme, especially among reality-TV daters.

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Common adjectives tossed about for this ideal person have ranged from kind and good-hearted to smart and funny.

But as of late, theres a newcomer on the island of hot traits: goofiness.

But however you define it, exactly, goofiness is now becoming the attractive quality du jour.

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But beyond this decidedly un-scientific research, relationship experts also confirm its a thing.

Daters are looking for someone who isnt afraid to show their goofy side and make them laugh.

Why is being goofy attractive in a dating and relationships context?

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The desire for goofiness can be a desire to get back to whats real.

And feeling that way with someone can certainly increase your attraction to them.

The same goofy silliness can also be appealing once youre in a relationship with someone.

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Indeed,embracing playfulnessin a relationship has been correlated withexperiencing more positive emotionsandless conflict and monotony.

Being goofy together means youre sharing a dialogue, youre sharing language, and youre sharing activities.

That means youre sharing a dialogue, youre sharing language, and youre sharing activities.

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Shared values, kindness, intelligence, and good communication and listening skills, to name a few.

And thats a definite turn-on.

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