In fact, the polite thing to do right now is to speak up and be direct.
It is so important to make anti-racism who you areto call it out wherever and whenever you see it.
Racism is systemic, and individual people make up those systems, says Saahene.

It is so important to make anti-racism who you areto call it out wherever and whenever you see it.
Below, Saahene and Swann spell out three steps for having effective and important impolite conversations.
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Elaine Swann is one of the most nationally recognized lifestyle and etiquette experts in the country. She’s the founder of The Swann School of Protocol, an institution committed to enriching the lives of individuals through the instruction of etiquette and social courtesies.
I hope that people are doing more of it and digging even deeper, she says.
Right then and theredont wait until later.
She recommends that you focus on what was said, and not the specific person in question.
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Step 3: Remember that the best time to speak up is now
Why now?
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Elaine Swann is one of the most nationally recognized lifestyle and etiquette experts in the country. She’s the founder of The Swann School of Protocol, an institution committed to enriching the lives of individuals through the instruction of etiquette and social courtesies.

