And when a pandemic swoops in to fully reformat your life?

This past year made connecting with others even more difficult, as so many social spheres dissipated.

(Farewell,work wives!

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Goodbye,gym buddies!

Peace out, happy-hour chums!)

Here are 3 of the biggest misconceptions about maintaining and making adult friendships.

Two people’s legs touch under a table as they work on their laptops.

businesswoman, digital strategist, writer, co-founder of Tech LadyMafia, and co-host of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast

I just think that theres so many ways to meet people, says Sow.

If youre trying to sustain something, long-term, its not going to be easy, says Jackson.

Because those in the effort camp probably devoted time and energy to nourishing their friendships.

Books on grief are seen floating against a backdrop of clouds.

Now we have these expectations that go along with it, say Jackson.

And you should probably be able to know the right things to say.

While best friend may not be an effective label, Sow and Friedman suggest embracing big friendship.

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And hell, why not share it with a buddy, too?

Got it, you’ve been added to our email list.

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businesswoman, digital strategist, writer, co-founder of Tech LadyMafia, and co-host of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast

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Michelle Monaghan, Carrie Coon, and Leslie Bibb in The White Lotus, symbolizing toxic friendships.

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