Anything that involves prioritizing your phone over your partner might qualify as phubbing.

The potential dangers of phubbing, however, go beyond anecdotes.

And thus, you phub, phub, and phub some more.

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Below, she and Howard give five ways to stop partner phubbing once and for all.

5 ways to keep partner phubbing from creating a pandemic in your relationship

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Ask your partner if theyre cool with making dinnertime a tech-free space, then enjoy one anothers company.

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2.

Before you dive in, ask them one simple question: Is this a good time to talk?

If one person is busy, be sure to suggest a better time.

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Collaborate on a mutually convenient time to talk, says Howard.

We all make excuses for keeping our phone next to us in the bedroom.

We say, I use it as my alarm or I use it to relax.

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